Six Stupid Myths About Mummy Bloggers: BUSTED!

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I occasionally get the impression that people think I live some charmed little life where I sit on my arse all day, eating bon-bons and writing blog posts; all on Daddy’s dime.

Here’s the deal: we need to clear a few things up.

I’ve had two children at home full-time for the last five years. I spend my days cooking and cleaning and doing craft activities and grocery shopping and mopping up emotional messes and reading picture books and exorcising playdough from my carpets and running kids around to appointments and playdates and playgroups.

Newsflash: I have just as little time to blog as anyone who works full-time. Being at home with small children does not provide large swathes of quality time in which to become an uber-blogger.

I blog after the kids are fed, bathed and put to bed at 7pm. Correction: I blog after the kids are in bed and ONLY after all my freelance work is done. I work evenings and late nights and weekends. My creative writing gets squeezed in last, around everyone else and their needs.

To do this, I have to sacrifice certain things. I sacrifice time with my husband. I sacrifice down-time. I sacrifice sleep. I sacrifice hobbies. I sacrifice socialising. I sacrifice every single season of The Block. It’s not quite as charmed as it seems.

All of this made me think about some other Mummy Blogger myths in dire need of busting.

Myth #1: Mummy Bloggers Have Too Much Time on Their Hands

I’ve kind of covered that already but it’s mostly the opposite. This one always puts my pelvic floor to the test, because mums are some of the busiest people you’re ever likely to meet. Some of us work, study, have special needs children or do volunteer work as well. Having children to care for is a time-suck of colossal magnitude, even under ideal circumstances. The supreme miracle is that we manage to blog IN SPITE of the fact we are mums. Not because of it.

Myth #2: Mummy Bloggers are Amateurs Who Can’t Write

Wrong. Some of us have backgrounds in media and communication. Some of us have worked as teachers or educators. Some of us have been writing since we were young. Some of us are only just discovering a natural flair for writing that we never knew we possessed. And some of us are amateurs who may not have the best spelling or grammar or syntax, but what makes us special is that we have the guts to put ourselves out there anyway.

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Myth #3: Mummy Bloggers are Narcissistic and Self-Absorbed

Not true. We build communities, we find tribes of like-minded writers, we pimp each other’s material, we swap guest posts and share audiences. We read and support each other’s work, we leave thoughtful comments for each other, we send gifts in the mail and we rally around when someone is in need of help. Marquee-name mummy bloggers generously share their time in private mentoring groups and spread the world about lesser known bloggers, all at their own behest.

Myth #4: Mummy Bloggers Have Nothing of Value to Contribute

Sexist bullshit is sexist. Mummy bloggers are an essential form of support, connection and camaraderie for other mothers. People who’ve never done this gig before have no idea how isolating and scary and downright boring it can be. Mummy bloggers share information, discuss taboo topics, organise fundraising for charities, raise awareness of important issues and empathise with other mothers, creating a virtual back fence where mums can meet to debrief, vent or chat about their day. Wine may or may not be involved.

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Myth #5: Mummy Bloggers are Over-Sharers Who Talk About Their Kids Too Much

It’s no surprise that lots of mummy bloggers talk about their children, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Kids do funny shit all the time. Why wouldn’t we write about that stuff? But there are also mummy bloggers like me. The ones who don’t post photos, or discuss personal details or even mention their offspring at all. You could spend a big chunk of time on Hugzilla and be completely unaware that I even have children. Some mummy bloggers talk about feminist issues or self-empowerment or cooking or travel. We aren’t a single hive-mind of spawn-obsessed over-sharers.

Myth #6: Mummy Bloggers are Boring and Whiny

Guilty as charged. However, for every annoying snark-merchant like me there are countless other mummy bloggers who focus on positive things. Intriguing, intelligent women who share stories that inspire, educate and uplift. And then there are the mummy bloggers who are among the funniest people I know: sharp, quick-witted women who take life’s lemons, whip up a round of tequila slammers and drop hilarious blog posts like it ain’t no thang. Boring, they are not.

All the mummy blogger disdain needs to stop. It’s patronising ass-hattery at best, an insidious form of sexism at worst.

So you can wipe the sneer out of the phrase “mummy blogger”, and while you’re at it you can stick your condescending quotation marks up your arse.

We’re mummies and we’re bloggers. Any other resemblance is purely coincidental.

127 thoughts on “Six Stupid Myths About Mummy Bloggers: BUSTED!

  1. Spot on!
    I think the sneerers generally don’t actually read many blogs or have any understanding of why some people choose to blog. Whatevs…
    I’m proud to be a mummy blogger & the haters can go & get stuffed 🙂

  2. The fundamental problem is that for most of history society has been able to rely on children to take up all of women’s time and energy and keep them from doing pesky things like sticking their noses in politics and other worldly affairs. The internet has changed that – now we can wipe snot, change bums, raise the next generation AND have an opinion. Publicly.

    • Yes!! It’s like Forrest Gump and his box of chocolates (mmmm…. chocolates). You never know what you’re gonna get. I am so looking forward to Problobber this year. It’s like Disneyland for writers.

  3. I’m not a mother but think some of the myths are how people see bloggers in general!!! People roll their eyes and ask me… “What do you write about?” as if I could not possibly have anything to contribute to society’s discourse on a range of important issues.

    I mean I don’t, but still – it’s none of their bloody business!

  4. Amen. I’m just going to direct the next person who rolls their eyes at me when I say I blog to this post. BTW – I’m sending this comment at 11.55pm ‘cos that’s how I roll…and sacrifice sleep. You’re worth it though Zilla 🙂

  5. It’s funny that the ‘mummy blogger’ term is used as an insult, yet people are reading…hmmm. If advertisers are coming, then something is right…people don’t throw money at something unless it appeals to someone…

  6. Yes! To all of it! Sometimes I wonder why I blog since, sacrifice. And also the condescending sneerers get me down. Thanks for reminding me it’s worth it and for suggesting stupid sneery douchebags can stick their quotation marks up their asses. I like that, haha.

  7. Excellent post! Bottom line is, people are rather sexist when it comes to women talking about anything in this world.

  8. I felt so strongly about this subtle derision of women I wrote a novel about it. My heroine becomes a blogger to try find her voice.
    And then I couldn’t shut up about it and turned it into a trilogy.
    It was only after the books were published that I started my blog and now I absolutely love the community I’ve discovered.
    Women with a voice become very powerful creatures! x

  9. ass-hattery!! I love it. How come the dads who blogs aren’t daddy bloggers? How come they are “cool” and trendy? I only have one kid, so I blog while he’s watching TV or playing Wii. I am too tired after everything else I do to blog. He is old enough to entertain himself for a while lol.

  10. It’s like mums aren’t allowed to discuss their lives or something. Like being a mum isn’t contributing to society, so we should all just shut up about it and stop trying to get so much attention. I had an awful lot of eye-rolling and condescension when I was reporting on politics for Mamamia – because that was a “mummy blog” and that was “fluff” compared to the AFR or The Oz. Because the issues facing mums like, I don’t know, health, education, welfare, childcare etc. are SO unimportant! FFS, the majority of mums I know are very well educated, very successful and very very smart. But we should totally forget all that shit because they have kids now and all they’re good for is to chat about lunch boxes and kids TV.
    I can’t think of any one thing that is SO life changing for such a huge proportion of the population as becoming a parent. So excuse me if I think people might want to talk about it.

    • Absolutely. It’s interesting and eye-poppingly depressing that you faced that kind of overt chauvinism for your political reporting on Mamamia. I guess you should have stuck to topics like eyeliner, tampons and Ryan Gosling. Because that’s all that silly little women like us can cope with. My brain hurts.

  11. Love love love it! I tell myself I’m not a mummy blogger but I’m a mum & I sometimes blog about mum stuff (cue latest post). Better just embrace it but I so hear you about fitting in freelance and blogging in the tiny bits of spare time. There’s no hope of getting much done with a 2 year old on the move, or I resort to painful iPad typing haha oh & my background is psychology… Let’s hope I can draft great stuff 😉 awesome post!

    • It’s really strange. At first I shied away from the term myself (exhibit A: my tagline for Hugzilla) but the more I got to know the amazing women who are plugging away at this niche and the more derision I encounter about the genre, the more I want to embrace it. But I’m a contrary little shit like that.

      • LOL it can be hard to embrace a label but once we do, it’s a win win! I love your version of mummy blogging. Always a good laugh with wisdom mixed in 😉

  12. I love this!! You have completely nailed who we are and I feel proud to be a mummy blogger!! When you give birth, you instantly wear your heart on your sleeves and so to put a blog up about the important issues of being a parent does take courage and guts and you surely have it! Thank you for taking one for the mummyblogger. I’m definitely sharing this on my page.

    • You have no idea how happy that makes me to hear it. We SHOULD definitely be proud of ourselves 🙂 (easier said than done, I know!) But as I was thinking about the topic, I was filled with so much appreciation for the women who blog in this niche. I had plans to start including specific blogs and linking to fantastic posts but then it all grew so out of control and unwieldy that I had to pare it back. There are a lot of very talented women who blog about these topics.

  13. This is the best thing I’ve read on the internet today! Thank you for breaking this down so eloquently! I don’t have a big enough readership to cop too much negative flak but I get annoyed when I see blogs that I love get hammered over expressing their opinion. Seriously, if you don’t like it, move on – there are literally a million other blogs out there that might suit you more…
    At the end of the day, I blog for me. I blog because I want to write but have been suppressing my creativity under the weight of briefing notes, reports, memos and a million other forms of corporate blandness for many years. I blog so that my girls will have an understanding of who I am and what I stand for if there comes a time in the future that I’m not around (which is where I’m at without my mum).
    I’m the first to admit I’m still finding my way (and yes, I’m one of those Mummy-bloggers with a degree in Marketing and PR) but you hit the nail on the head with this comment: we have the guts to put ourselves out there anyway. Whether or not anyone thinks I have anything value to contribute or worthwhile to say is not worth me worrying about because I’ve felt more free in the past two months being a boring, whiny, talk-about-my-kids-all-day amateur Mummy-blogger, than I have in years.

    • I actually got chills when you mentioned your girls having an understanding of who you are, because that’s one of the main reasons I do this too. My boys are too young to read, but one day I hope they can look back over the body of work I created and be a) surprised to see a different side of me and b) proud of me. They know me as mum. The one who cooks their dinner, and kisses their sore knees and does all the boring stuff like cleaning and making sure they get to bed on time. They see Mum, but they don’t see me. I hope one day they get to see and appreciate this side of me too. The side that other people see.

  14. Spot on girlfriend. Some of my friends make funny comments about my blogging ( I actually don’t think they really know whatnot is) but I research, read, comment and write around my kids, work, friends & family, often up at 5am and in bed late. But like most bloggers, we love it and want to help so #3 is the opposite.. We want to help

    • So true. I think that is one of the biggest misconceptions that people have. There’s this assumption that we are all just arrogantly putting our thoughts out into the ether, but no real understanding of the community aspect of blogging, and the open dialogue.

  15. Bravo Hugzilla! Ever since I left work and started to blog/write full-time, I’ve had remarks that illustrate that people don’t get blogging at all and don’t consider what I’m doing to be a worthy replacement for leaving my job. I’m afraid that faced with the inevitable question “so what do you do now?” I state that I am writing full-time and leave it at that. But I would love to be more proud of my blogging and shout to the world that I am a damn mummy blogger and proud of it!!!!

  16. Well said. Also I am always amazed at how large a group of women are lumped in the “mummy blogger” group. As someone said they don’t take all the male dad bloggers and put them in a group. They get to stay in their niche like humour or business or lifestyle… With no reference to the daddy part even if they share home stuff too,

  17. Love it! all true! especially the time thing! I only get to blog after shes gone to bed, the house has been tidied, washing has been done, dinner for hubby and I made etc…. otherwise its while she has decided there is nowhere she wants to sleep except on my chest, then I’m couch bound so I cant do anything but type 🙂 … maybe I am a tad whiny though….

  18. Great points – the lumping together of all mummies, the ignorance of the fact that we are all many other things besides mothers (and bloggers), the general ignorance because most critics don’t really bother to read blogs anyway – it can drive you crazy. As a former journo and now as someone who is back writing for a big part of my paid job, I really hate the pretentiousness about what is considered ‘proper writing’. I don’t get the problem some people have with other people (whether they be Mummy bloggers or not) writing and publishing themselves, because they love writing and because they want to build connections with others.

  19. I love the world of mummy bloggers. It provides with all the support and communication as play group or mothers groups with out the negativity and judgement that your child isn’t quite as good or hasn’t reached a milestone on time

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